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Interracial Dating

There’s a book I’ve been meaning to read for some time called: “Just Don’t Marry One: Interracial Dating, Marriage, and Parenting” I wish I could give you a stellar review and encourage you to read it, but until I read it myself I can’t do that.

I’m posting the linkĀ because the nasty little term “just don’t marry one” keeps popping into my mind. Also the term “just don’t bring one home” keeps dancing around in there too. It makes me ponder the hypocrisy of the meaning behind those words. You know, go ahead have some fun, get it out of your system, but God forbid you make a commitment in an interracial relationship.

Now this book isn’t endorsing the hypocrisy perspective of interracial relationship, in fact from the reviews I’ve read it’s the opposite. It actually takes a Christian perspective on embracing diversity in relationships. I really must read it.

But the point I’m slowly working my way up to making here is this. If you are a parent or even someone who plans on becoming a parent one day, do you openly endorse interracial relationships? If you are this person can you honestly look into your heart and apply your position on interracial relationships to your children or future children? Can you truly look into your heart and know you would embrace a future son or daughter in law who is of another race?

Or do you secretly harbor that little nervous pit in your stomach, that niggling little thought scurrying around furtively in your mind that you hope it’s not you who will be confronted with this situation.

Because it can happen. To you.

Deal with your little secret. Heal your heart now so you don’t put conditions on your children later that puts life changing baggage into motion where your pride might never allow you to right the wrong you create.

Hey maybe you are even one of those people who openly states your hate and disdain for interracial “mixing”. You’ve even piped your racial views into your children’s minds for years so they grow up to be just like you.

Or so you thought.

Guess what? It can happen to you too. Are you prepared to lose your family to your ugly fear?

It can happen. It happened to me.

Wrote by : Shirl